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BAH HUMBUG!-RANDOM RAMBLINGS #14

Bah Humbug! This is literally my expression these days when I hear love stories or see people who have found love. If you’re familiar with A Christmas carol by Charles Dickens and the fictional character of Ebenezer Scrooge, then you’d know that classic phrase. I am basically Scrooge with a little twist, Christmas doesn’t make me grumpy, love stories do.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for all the people who have found love, but then I always have doubts. It’s not my fault though, the way things are in this generation is enough to make anyone a little skeptical when it comes to matters of the heart.

Most relationships or marriages these days seem to have the same pattern. Things start out great, they dream of happily ever after, and everyone is excited for the happy couple. Then the people like me who like to invest arrive and get attached to the couple (buying shares while at it), especially if it’s someone we know or a celebrity we like. Things go so great for a while and then before you know it, we start hearing stories of the couple parting ways, leaving us heartbroken.

I haven’t always been the Scrooge of relationships though, it’s something that developed recently. I used to love happy endings and every time I had hope that people would live happily ever after, something always went wrong down the line, leaving me hanging unto hope by a thread. Now, that hope seems to have been severed completely.

It doesn’t even help when you hear the things that caused the break up or divorce. It’s always one horrible story after another and I’m just really really tired of this dumb ass generation and the things we do to hurt each other.

The thing is, I still get happy when I see people in love, but I no longer have the same beliefs I used to have, especially when it comes to my own life. I don’t want to be this way though, I still want to have that childlike mentality of love, that it could happen just like in those Disney movies we used to watch as kids. But alas! the chances of that happening are too slim right now.

I just really hope that all my family and friends who are happy in their relationships or marriages stay that way because I really don’t know what will become of me if I hear anymore heartbreaking stories from people who are close to me.

I need someone to give me a remedy to this situation because to be honest, being Scrooge sucks!

Does anyone else feel this way? Please let me know in the comment section. Don’t forget to share!

12 Comments

  • NNEDI AZOLIKE

    My sister, your feelings are very valid considering how the cookies called Love crumble these days. Don’t expect too much by way or Love these days, so you don’t keep getting disappointed when shit goes down.

  • Kido

    Well for me I never really cared about love. When we are younger, love was showcased to us as this beautiful, magical feeling that should last a lifetime. We saw it a lot in Disney movies and always dreamed of meeting our princes and princesses. But as we grew older we realise that’s not the case and love is quite complicated, considering how fast the world is changing

  • Onwusa Precious

    I feel the same exact way, I feel like this idea of love I’ve had in my head is all meant to be fictional and is not possible in our world right now. Hopefully it doesn’t spoil love for me permanently because right now I’m not so sure love still exist today.

  • Tola

    I’ve always been an advocate of if I marry fine, if not it’s okay too. The truth is no matter how much or hard we try to love, human capacity to love always has a limit, especially in this day and age. In the olden times love used to be something to look forward to, but rn there are so many principles that makes sure you are not accountable for your actions at the end of the day.
    Don’t get me wrong these principles are very necessary in some relationships but not all.
    Example of the principles I’m talking about is: you don’t owe anyone anything bla bla bla

    • cassywrites

      Honestly, I’ve been an advocate of the same thing. I’m not even hyped about marriage at all. It actually scares the crap out of me knowing that my partner might just wake up one day and decide to change😩😩

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